Whether you walk, you’re let go, or your company has its doors, the new descriptor is closed, that you are “job or career transition.” The good news is that in the transition is much more positive and powerful than just a job. Unfortunately, many people in transition, feeling anything but positive and powerful.
Losing job brings feelings of pain, fear, anger, and many times. You may feel like your identity when you have lost your title is lost. Even if you do not use your position when someone decides that you walk, you can not help but experience rejection. Realistically, if you do not have the luxury of staying sad and rejected because they have confidence and feel empowered to get this career opportunity to come.
Here are some ways to keep your confidence during the transition and some helpful tips to remind you that you have lost your job, you will not find:
Expect negative feelings and accept. When we experience negative emotions such as sadness, frustration and despair, let us try to put these feelings in our mind, or let it take over, so we feel they are overwhelmed and powerless against them. These and other negative feelings are normal during the transition to employment. Instead of wasting energy fighting back negative feelings, feelings that you drive, but you do not choose to live in them. After all, they are not feelings and facts. Of course, you can sadly that was, but you can also experience the excitement of what will be.
Form an advisory committee. Now, more than at any other time, you should be proud of your achievements and feel good about your strengths. Most of us are not used to listing our strengths and successes. We feel it is much easier to see our mistakes and failures. Your Board of Advisors can be friends or people you have worked with you and thank you for your gifts. Call for a meeting of your “Board” and ask for their help in identifying your strengths and successes.
Change negative thoughts into positive affirmations. It is natural to call into question during the transition to employment. It is easy to criticize you no longer important or important enough to keep your job. The Pink Slip can have your name, but it says nothing about your value. Therefore, if you wander your thoughts to the idea that you were not good enough, smart enough or not enough value, reframe negative cognitions with more positive thoughts.
A good way is to take the words of the strength of your “advice” and write each other on a sheet preceded by the words can be identified: “I am.” Do the same with the success of each card with the words “I have done.” Post cards around your house so that you have a constant reminder that you are not poor losers, no job, but a dynamic, successful, capable, that any person, employers would be pleased to receive. Keep duplicate one of the cards in your wallet and take them to job interviews. Read out each before leaving your car.
Enjoy your free time. As it is difficult to remain focused on a project for hours at a time, it will be difficult to concentrate on your work, looking for all day, every day. Enjoy this transitional period as a gift. Determine the number of hours you can be effective every day in search of employment. Use the remaining hours of the day to do things you never had time to do if you worked full time.
Volunteering for an organization or cause close to your heart is a good way to kill time. It can be multi-purpose, you must use your gifts to help others, you have a “punch” a reminder of your responsibility and you never know when one discovers to be “perhaps” from another volunteer and receive a referral for a job that fits your talents.
Transition to working life is a confusing and emotional challenges. It is important that you control the things you let go and be that one does not. It is also important to know that in difficult times, people often become depressed or unhealthy behaviors to relieve their pain. If you feel to fight more than you think is normal, consult your family doctor, clergy member, a therapist or trusted friend. You are not alone and do not of themselves.
Quick tips for maintaining confidence in the transitional employment
* Keep a regular schedule – getting up as if you go to work, wear a shower, and be ready to start the day
* Routines healthy practice – it is now charged at the time, the attention to a healthy diet, regular aerobic exercise and enough sleep
* Use is tools for managing daily stress – it is to speak yoga, breathing, imagery and positive self-image, make sure you manage your stress
* Avoid isolation – in touch with your friends and family, even if you wanted to hide at home
* Stay in the moment – avoid the “if” the past or the future, while in control of what happens today,
* Close your spirituality – spiritual or religious beliefs that help us center and outside of the natural environment puts things in perspective
* Looking for ways to laugh every day – even when nothing seems funny, you can do “to make you watch it” with funny movies, read comic books or even watch stupid videos on the Internet.
Sometimes when people are unemployed a sense of loss of identity, anxiety or depression. If the above tips do not seem to help, or if your job search lasts over a long period, you can ask for advice or information. Seeking help does not mean you’re crazy or a mental illness. Asking for help is actually a good sign.
